Sportsmanship and mental strength.

My four-year-old daughter came absolute last in a little fun run last Saturday. She took it quite badly. Nearly a week later, she's still upset that 'that boy' beat her. I don't know which kid in particular she's referring to but nonetheless, it appears some sportsmanship lessons are in order. 

Katie wasn't too pleased at being beaten...

The reality is that even as adults, it is sometimes difficult to be a good loser. That competitive streak, the adrenaline rush and the fact that we're 'on show' makes for a frustrating moment. Similarly, being a good winner is important. Either way, acknowledging and respecting competitors is an integral part of racing. Without them, there would be no racing in the first place. 

We need to remember though, that racing has a huge element of luck. Things can and do go wrong. Appreciating this and preparing mentally for whatever may happen is a significant part of daily training. What do you do if your goggles get kicked off your face? Can you keep calm, and put your goggles back on? Or what if you get a puncture? Do you burst out crying? Do you know how to change a tube or tyre? A little thought and mental rehearsal can prepare for some worst-case scenarios - and that includes losing to a stronger athlete. Finish the race, congratulate your competitors and smile. It's not always easy, but it is necessary. Then go home, have a private cry if you must, regroup and focus on the future. 

Switching back to sportsmanship - the classic example is Rebekah Keat giving that CO2 cartridge to her biggest competitor, Chrissie Wellington, in Kona 2008.

Respect! Could you honestly do that? 

My little girl told me that 'that boy' won't beat her again. 'Are you going to train for the next race?' I asked innocently. 

'No, next time I'll use my bicycle!' 

Ummmm...